Call me, maybe. No really, do.

A couple months ago I started dating someone I had previously dated... in high school, in fact he was my first love.  It was fun, we got to know each other again, re-told old stories and immediately we felt comfortable with one another like we were 16 again.  Whether this or that, we realized we shouldn't be dating again and we broke it off.  No hard feelings on either end we just realized it wasn't going to work.

Tuesday my girlfriend and I met up for some ass kicking time at the gym and we were discussing why it didn't work and how much dating had changed in the past 10 years.  Not specifically with him, but more-so how technology has changed the basis of relationships.  In 2002 when I was a senior in high school I didn't text worth shit, instead I did this archaic thing called "write notes" oh and this other thing "talk on the phone." 

Seriously think about it... when was the last time you talked on the phone and had one of those "discovery" conversations with someone?  Probably not recently. (Mine was about 2 years ago with someone who lived out of state so we couldn't really date, yep you C.R.)  Our methods of communication have been tampered with by the efficiency of texting and emails and twitter and facebook.  The art of conversation has been totally lost on the dating world.  Having 30+ text messages a day with someone does not count as a conversation either, so don't even try to make that point!

Technology in general has just put a kink in the relationship chain of events.  When do you publicly refer to someone as your boyfriend/girlfriend?  When is it time to change your relationship status on facebook?  Is that how you now ask someone to be your partner?  Should you be friends/followers with the person you're dating on social media? With the advances in these huge platforms it takes all the mystery out of dating. For instance, you know what I did last night because someone tagged me somewhere and posted a picture so why even ask?  Social media in general has stolen the romance, depleted the communication and made mysteries completely non-existent.

Although I make all these extremely valid points and I'm right as always, I have found one thing social media does that helps those out the in the dating world.  VIRTUAL STALKING aka facestalking!  If you ask me out on a date, do not doubt I will research the hell out of you.  Facebook, Twitter, Google, Instagram, Pinterest if you're on there I'm gonna find you.  I'm gonna figure you out and I'm going to make points of things for us to talk about we have in common.  

Do I text? Yes.  Is it convenient? Most definitely. Am I a hypocrite? Without a doubt. All I know is that if you want to have a meaningful relationship with me or a girl like me...stop texting.  Pick up the phone and press the call button it's not that hard. I promise you will find out more about a person from the sound of their voice and they way they carry themselves in an actual conversation than you will virtual stalking and texting the hell out of them.  

Or better put, "I just met you, and this is crazy, but here's my number so call me" ... and I DON'T MEAN MAYBE.

laters baby,

pAsh